Thursday, August 4, 2016

Chasing After the Israeli Army

...is probably the most pointless activity possible.

And I got caught in it this time...David was on a schedule. Sixteen days in the army, five days at home. It's a great schedule because unlike the days where he arrives at home on Friday and leaves early Sunday morning, this Wednesday to Monday deal gives him two full days to live, to have fun.

He had it...all of one time.

When he told us what his schedule would be, we noticed that we had scheduled our "in our dreams once-a-year" vacation for the following week. We started to call around to see if we could change our vacation to match the days Davidi would be out of the army...and we succeeded. We were so excited to be able to plan...yes, there is the problem. Never plan with the army!

So, we planned. He'll come out on Wednesday, we'll try to pick him up and save him the long trip north. On Thursday, maybe we'll go hiking, maybe kayaking...Friday, we'll go to the Sea of Galilee, which is not too far away from where we'll be staying. Shabbat we'll all be together and then Sunday, whatever we didn't do Thursday, we would do then.

Monday, I would take him to where he could catch a train or a bus...and continue for a few more days on vacation without him. It was all set, all planned, all hoped for. I would make corned beef, something David loves. I would make other things as well. All planned, except you should never plan when you have a son or daughter in the army.

A few minutes ago, David told me that it looked like they were going back to the 11-3 schedule. Eleven days in the army, arrive home on Friday and back in on Sundays.

It's not an unusual occurrence. I have heard of many times in which parents have traveled all the way to Israel for an army ceremony, only to find out the date was changed or the army decided to have it closed, and for the soldiers only.

And each time a parent has come to me, I have explained that the army does what is best for the army, not the individual soldier. While they have an interest in making the soldier happy, it is not their main reason for existing and so we have to accept. We have to live today for today and worry about tomorrow when it comes.

I'm struggling with that concept now...I was so hoping we'd have this family vacation together...now I"m working to accept yet another change in plans and saying to myself what I have said to others. It is the army and they will do what they have to, shuffle our sons and daughters around to meet their needs. Take it one day at a time.

A bit sadder today than most days...working to let go of the image of having David with us...

1 comment:

Batya Medad said...

This post is one of the 18 chosen for The Best 18 for Havel Havelim! Blog Roundup, Av 5776.
Yes, only 18 חי Chai= Life!

You're in good company; take a look!

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